Over the past few years I have learned to change my language. I used to feel so sorry for my daughter, Greta (I still do sometimes) and my language reflected that… ”Oh sweetie, I am so sorry that your pain is worse today.” “It’s okay if you can’t do that today, let’s save your energy.” “What can I do to help you feel better?” “Maybe today we will just have to take it easy.” “You don’t worry about that, I will do that for you.” I felt like she was a victim and I talked like sh